Relationship help?

thejokeriv wrote:

MetalRob331 wrote:

Lari wrote:

Dude, did you ask for her permission before posting that picture? Nothing wrong with the picture itself, but you're basically saying she's cheating on her husband and now you just posted her picture. I know the chances of her (or the husband) ever coming here to see, but you never know about the internet... once it's out there, it's never gone.

We are just great friends who want more and thats it (I hope thats not cheating). Thanks for reminding me about the pic, I don't know what I was thinking.

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Borderline emotional affair and that can be just as if not more damaging than one of a sexual nature.

My question - if she is willing to enter into an emotional relationship with you (which it appears you have an emotional affair right now), how do you know that she won't do that same thing to you?

She's unhappy now and just wants what is best for her. She doesnt know what that is and I told her I will wait til she decides and I will care for her regardless of the choice. I just think she is very unhappy and she just thinks I am an amazing guy I guess..

Considering messing around with married women isn't a "relationship" issue. It's a mental health issue and a very serious one at that. Bad idea. Period. I hope nobody has to find that out for themselves. I wouldn't wish that sort of misery on anyone.

I know being someone who has never been in a relationship, I am the last person to be giving advice but I hope maybe this can help as I have learned some things from other people. Be careful about feelings, they can easily betray you. Many people think love is a feeling but that is a mistake that often ends in disaster. Real love goes beyond just feelings it is also about making a decision. Relationships based only on feelings are oftern doomed to fail. There has to ba deeper level of commitment and as long as she is committed to someone else than your missing a large piece of the puzzle that is required to make a relationship work. Ask couples who have been together for several years and they'll tell you that after the honeymoon period is over the feelings disapate. The relationships that last the longest are ones that don't henge on just feelings. Look at hollywood relationships, they are usually based on purley emotions and a majority of them fail miserably. So just make sure you're not just relying only on feelings.

DallasBlack wrote:

I know being someone who has never been in a relationship, I am the last person to be giving advice but I hope maybe this can help as I have learned some things from other people. Be careful about feelings, they can easily betray you. Many people think love is a feeling but that is a mistake that often ends in disaster. Real love goes beyond just feelings it is also about making a decision. Relationships based only on feelings are oftern doomed to fail. There has to ba deeper level of commitment and as long as she is committed to someone else than your missing a large piece of the puzzle that is required to make a relationship work. Ask couples who have been together for several years and they'll tell you that after the honeymoon period is over the feelings disapate. The relationships that last the longest are ones that don't henge on just feelings. Look at hollywood relationships, they are usually based on purley emotions and a majority of them fail miserably. So just make sure you're not just relying only on feelings.

Of course people base relationships on feeling, but there is more to it then that like Dallas said. I want to be with someone I can see spending the rest of my life with.

SAHB Healer wrote:

Considering messing around with married women isn't a "relationship" issue. It's a mental health issue and a very serious one at that. Bad idea. Period. I hope nobody has to find that out for themselves. I wouldn't wish that sort of misery on anyone.

+1

SAHB Healer wrote:

Considering messing around with married women isn't a "relationship" issue. It's a mental health issue and a very serious one at that. Bad idea. Period. I hope nobody has to find that out for themselves. I wouldn't wish that sort of misery on anyone.

I have known many many married women who have dated many many guys. Just because you are married doesn't mean you are stuck with that significant other. there are things that can happen like split ups and all. My sister has been married for years now and still holds her husbands last name. They do not live together and she has been living with a new guy for years and he is a great guy. Her husband by name will not go to divorce court and will not see her or talk to her or there kids.

this is beginning to sound like a soap opera.

And like many soap operas they spring from the minds of over imaginative writers of fiction.

MetalRob331 wrote:

Just because you are married doesn't mean you are stuck with that significant other.

Im sorry i know this thread is ancient, but I just had to say that this is a flat out lie.

Damn, this thread is ancient.

Fat Freddy wrote:

Go to a club wearing a pin that says "ASK ME ABOUT MY HUGE ORGAN"

..but I wish Gooch would come back, just so I could find out if he followed my advice shown above, and whether or not it worked for him.

Fat Freddy wrote:

Damn, this thread is ancient.

Fat Freddy wrote:

Go to a club wearing a pin that says "ASK ME ABOUT MY HUGE ORGAN"

..but I wish Gooch would come back, just so I could find out if he followed my advice shown above, and whether or not it worked for him.

That's probably why he hasn't been back, he did follow your advice.

Yeah but in all honesty I made the stupid mistake of dating married women many times and it ain't worth the dramatic psychos they become and the guilt that overwhelms you.

Jesusandmetal23 wrote:

MetalRob331 wrote:

Just because you are married doesn't mean you are stuck with that significant other.

Im sorry i know this thread is ancient, but I just had to say that this is a flat out lie.

I guess you didnt read what I wrote afterwards. My sister is still married and bears her husbands name but they have been split up for over 6 years. She never got a divorce because he wont go and she is now engaged to a great guy. This is what I mean by you don't have to be with them just because you are married. Many people split up and are still married.