Advice On My 10 Year Hight School Re-union

My 10 year re-union is comming up in mid October and I'm not quite sure I want to go. Those who have been through this, did you regret it or was it a fun experience? Keep in mind, I wasn't a popular kid (more like the quite kid) and the only people I really knew were from my wrestling team (and I have only seen 2-3 of them in the past 10 years). On one hand, I wish to let them know about the passing of a fellow team mate, but on the other I feel inadaquate not having a career, family, or even a girlfriend. I know I shouldn't be embarassed for being a late bloomer, but as much as I want to pretend that it doesn't matter to me, that isn't quite the case.

You should go dude, I already miss some of my friends that I had in High school and I have only been out for like 4 months.

I doubt anybody at the reunion is going to shun you because of how you were back in the day. Ever notice that, when you see somebody that you didnt really get along with in school at the store or something they always are cool with you...at least in my expiriences.

You should go - it's interesting to see how others you went to school with changed in 10 years. I went to my 10 year (skipped the 20th though), it is interesting. Heck, I was managing a Wendy's when I went to mine (not exactly a great career)

Go and have a good time, I am sure you are going tp find a lot of your peers didnot have careers or are married or even worse they are unhappily married.

You lived your life well, all that crap careers etc, is all window dressing and doesn't matter. Life is short and you can't take it with you, last I looked hearses donot come equipped with lugage rackets.

I did'nt hang out with anybody I went to school with, I avoided mine & dont regret it a bit.

I've stayed in touch with the handful of people I cared about in school. There is no reason for me to go back and reconnect with those I didn't care for years ago.

spectrefate wrote:

I've stayed in touch with the handful of people I cared about in school. There is no reason for me to go back and reconnect with those I didn't care for years ago.

I'm with you on the last part, however, the only friend I stayed in contact with is dead and those that I did know don't know about it, thats the only reason I can think of to go.

It seems like people that go to these things are just interested in compaing lives with others. I don't see a point at all unless you were friends with most of the school or something. The friends from school that you had most likely either kept in touch with you or they were just acquaintances to begin with.

If you think you'll regret not going, just go.

spectrefate wrote:

I've stayed in touch with the handful of people I cared about in school. There is no reason for me to go back and reconnect with those I didn't care for years ago.

Same here. I got a few buddies that I still hang around with, playing cards and such. The rest I don't care to see again.

MetalGuy71 wrote:

spectrefate wrote:

I've stayed in touch with the handful of people I cared about in school. There is no reason for me to go back and reconnect with those I didn't care for years ago.

Same here. I got a few buddies that I still hang around with, playing cards and such. The rest I don't care to see again.

Me three. I graduated from HS 20 years ago this year, I haven't been to a reunion yet and I don't plan to anytime soon. I didn't like enough of the people I went to HS with to make it worth bothering with.

Yea, I had a bit of an anti-social streak back then... can ya tell?

DallasBlack wrote:

but on the other I feel inadaquate not having a career, family, or even a girlfriend. I know I shouldn't be embarassed for being a late bloomer, but as much as I want to pretend that it doesn't matter to me, that isn't quite the case.

People have said it before, but a girl doesn't make you complete. Not everyone has kids. Plus a career is just a steady job. If the world were full of just nine-to-fivers then nothing would get done. You are doing fine from what I know. I'd bet it's a little stagnant at times, but everyone's lives are like that. You have nothing to be ashamed about. Now if you were just getting out of prison for molesting an entire Eagle Scout Troop last summer, then you'd have a reason to feel inadequate. You have plenty of time in your 40's and 50's to beat yourself up about crap. You're still young, say screw it.

Dallas Black it seems important for you to go than go, but you have nothing to prove to these people, I have never been to a high school reunion nor would I care to. Those people who were popular in high school and continue to look back to their high school years as best years of their life are pathetic. You have moved forward and like I said careers etc, window dressing that does not define you as a person. If these people lose their jobs than what becomes of them? If someone judges you because you have not meet some idiotic standard they have set up in their minds, they are not your friend but probably also an a$$hole.

I don't know you, Dallas but I can tell your a good person stop beating yourself up.

DB, you can laugh at all the bald people, since you have so much hair.

DenimAndLeather wrote:

DB, you can laugh at all the bald people, since you have so much hair.

That is true - even after 10 years, you will see a number of your classmates that have lots their hair! You'll see people that put on lots of weight (sometimes the hot girls from high school), plus the not hot girls that are now really hot

Show up, give 'em the finger, tell 'em you'll see 'em in hell and go home.

Bring your sword and stab some muthafuggas!

I got my 10 year reunion thing in the mail a while back too. I was thinking of going but most of the people I was friends with in high school I still talk to now. I asked them if they were going to go and they said no so I figured theres no reason to go then. Its only been 10 years anyway so you'll more than likely find out not much has changed with some people.

From time to time I end up finding a friend at a store or somewhere that I havent seen in years and they really havent changed much either they dont really have a job, or they are just complete a**holes. I hate the ones where you were good friends in school and you havent talked in years then when you see them later on in life their like yea man we should hang out whats your number i'll call you so you give it to them and they never call. I mean I guess I couldve called too but still lol. The friends I have now are better than the ones I had back in school anyway. All I need now is my gf, my band and certain family and friends otherwise anyone I used to be friends with that didnt keep in contact with me can screw off.

Now if I didnt have a gf I would probably deffinetly go and see the girls I used to like and see how they are now and maybe get a number or two haha. But im happy now so it doesnt matter.

Maybe you should go just for that reason dallas just to maybe meet up with some girls you used to like maybe their single too. Its not like its gonna hurt you to go. Unless you werent liked then id say dont go lol. Otherwise who cares what you dont have or dont do just make stuff up. Just dont tell them you come here cause thats not gonna help. lol

sam wrote:

Show up, give 'em the finger, tell 'em you'll see 'em in hell and go home.

Good idea - but I don't think DB has a spot in hell

You can also mess with their heads. Make stuff up, have fun with it. eg; You could tell them your a...I don't know...and cowboy spaceman, or something. You could have a good time. Bring a super hot friend and pretend that your married, if your never gonna see these people again, or only every 10 years have fun with them.

thejokeriv wrote:

sam wrote:

Show up, give 'em the finger, tell 'em you'll see 'em in hell and go home.

Good idea - but I don't think DB has a spot in hell

He does if he brings his swords!

Yeah, like jokeriv said, if anything go for all those hot girls that you couldnt quite get with in high school...

It's 25 years for me and have yet to go to one. Everyone I talked to about the 10 year said that it was still too much like high school. The 20 year is enough time for life to have really set in, most people are on their second or third spouse and have lost jobs and or homes. It is here that you will see the real success in how people have adapted to life. I do look back and kind of wonder what folks look like and how they are doing but I don't really regret having not gone.

Just give it some consideration and if you want to go then do it, if you really don't, then miss it. Enjoy your life and don't worry about what other folks may think. Time passes too fast to let things others may say bother you, more than likely they are just hiding behind a facade anyway.

Thanks for the advice guys, I think I have decided to go. On one hand, the guys I was on the wrestling team with would like to know about our fallen teammate. Also it would be nice to catch up with them. I met a few briefly over the years but didn't have a whole lot of time to catch up. On another hand, I don't do much socializing. I haven't been to church in 3 weeks, I don't have much friends, and I don't go to many social gatherings. Though I didn't know many, this could be a good opportunity to meet new friends as well as old ones. Who knows, I could meet my future wife . My decision now hinges on more people RSVPing. So far there have only been 3 RSVPs and it's only a couple of weeks away. There have been no declines however, over 200 people have not replied yet.

Dallas, you overanalyze things. Stop thinking about things so much. Just do it.

Eyesore wrote:

Dallas, you overanalyze things. Stop thinking about things so much. Just do it.

Yea man. You ever see that movie Benchwarmers? Where the guys brother stays in the closet cause hes affraid of the sun? He eventually came out and realized it wasnt so bad. You can do it to. Come out into the sun there is a whole world outside to meet you. Just dont show anyone your avatar